Is couples or marriage counseling right for you? Are you experiencing any of the following?
- Inability to manage conflict
- Loss of romance, passion, fun, and sexual intimacy
- Feeling that you have lost sight of who you are outside of the marriage
- Difficulty adjusting to parenting
- Infidelity and betrayal
- Blending of families
- Conflict over maintaining boundaries with in-laws
- Loss of emotional intimacy and closeness
- Stress on a relationship due to a partner’s substance abuse or other addictions
- Such as gambling, pornography, gaming, sex, using the computer/internet,
- Shopping, working, exercising, or spiritual obsession
We wholeheartedly believe in and have seen the benefits of couples attending marriage counseling and have seen amazing benefits and transformation. However, we also recognize that sometimes divorce truly is the best option. Despite your best intentions, hopes, and dreams when you said “I do,” or active participation in therapy, it is possible you may realize that separating is healthy for you both.
The stigma that was once associated with divorce is changing; more couples are able to admit when they’re struggling or not feeling engaged in their relationship any longer, and they’re more willing to seek help to resolve the matter. At the same time, more partners are recognizing it’s acceptable to move on when things truly aren’t working, rather than staying together to put on a show.
Perhaps you haven’t tried therapy, but you and your partner have already made the decision you want to separate. Our couples counseling can still facilitate the resolution of your issues so you can go forward in the most positive light possible. This is a wonderful outcome for your own, personal well-being and can also make the situation more manageable if you’ll be co-parenting.
Divorce isn’t where anyone expects their marriage to wind up, but working through your issues in a safe, supportive environment with our couples therapist can help make a tough period in your life a bit easier.
Our therapists are trained in the Gottman Method. Gottman Method Couples Therapy helps to “disarm conflicting verbal communication, increase intimacy, respect, and affection, remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy in conflicting situations, and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.” (John and Julie Gottman)
In his New York Times bestselling book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, Dr. John Gottman writes, “Although you may feel your situation is unique, we have found that all marital conflicts fall into two categories: Either they can be resolved, or they are perpetual, which means they will be part of your lives forever, in some form or another.” Gottman says that 69% of marital conflicts are perpetual problems, and these are of particular focus in much of the work performed by Gottman-trained therapists.
If interested in learning more, please reach out to us!